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       In my early 40’s, I was reintroduced to the Christian faith
by the man who later that year, 2000, became my husband.

It was not until after a move to Gloucester in 2005 that I started to
attend Church regularly. I found One Church enthusiastic and engaging.

Life took a difficult turn in 2008 when my husband announced that he
wanted a divorce.  It made me examine my faith and belief in God and
late in 2009 I asked Jesus into my life.

During my divorce, God spoke to me and told me everything would be all
right. I have not had a permanent job since early 2011, but God has
continued to provide me with employment and see me through financial

I know that whatever happens in my life, God knows the bigger picture
and everything happens for a reason. I put my trust in God, my Father.

Ann – Extended Story

Ann - Extended StoryMy story proves, without any shadow of doubt, three wonderful and amazing things about God.

He is REAL

Always searching for something or someone – never satisfied – fear, anxiety, disappointment, anger. All these emotions ruled my life all through my teenage years into my late twenties. By this time I was married with three children, living in Singapore. My husband was an alcoholic who made our lives intolerable and fear was always present as we wondered what would happen when my husband came home.

A couple had moved into our neighbourhood and they started up a Good News Club on a Friday night for the children in the area. My two elder children started going and absolutely loved it. They would come home and sing choruses and tell me all about the fun they were having. Sometimes I would find myself crying as they sang their songs.. Then one night they came home absolutely FULL of excitement, saying ‘why didn’t you tell us that we could ask Jesus into our heart and be born again and we can go to heaven. My response was, I didn’t know that. Well, we’ve done it they said, we have asked Jesus to come into our hearts. I saw my children change over the following months. They had joy, they had peace, they were coping with life better than I was. Finally, one Friday night I was so overwhelmed by my situation, my life, my fear, that I went into my garden, crying, looked up at the sky and said, God if this is true, if you are real, then do something, change my life and I hand over my life to you.. There was no bolt of lightening, no revelation, but just saying those words released something in me and the next morning I woke up with hope in my heart. My situation didn’t change, in fact it got worse, especially when I told my husband what I had done, but I did. I had found what I had been looking for I had found God – the Real, living God who gives peace and joy. God protected, blessed, and enabled us to live in the same circumstances with a tremendous happiness in our lives.

God eventually made a way for the children and I to move to Zimbabwe where we found a Pentecostal Church. It was here that I discovered that God is THE Provider – a single mum with three children and we never, ever went without and ALWAYS had enough to give and bless others.. we were living out our lives when, after a period of three years, my husband literally turned up on my doorstep, having left the Air Force. He asked for a second chance. As a Christian I felt I should try to reconcile our marriage. We then had another child, but unfortunately he had not changed and eventually we ended our marriage.

David was the last born and right from a very young age he had a heart after God. He loved people and was fearless in his approach to sharing the gospel, one day at a rugby match some young people were swearing and drinking and he went up and told them that Jesus loved them. There are many stories I could tell you about him. Two months after David’s 13th Birthday he went off to school on the Monday morning and was killed by an army truck that went through a red light. How I wish I could say that when this happened I trusted my God, I rested in Him, but I didn’t. I, who had experienced provision, love, peace, life – turned away, became angry, blaming God for David’s death.

I said to God I am walking away – I am going to live my own life and I did. But, oh the mercy of God, He let me go but he gave me someone to walk with me. Chas and I came to England 23 years ago, not intending to stay. For many of those years I tried very hard to forget God, but He did not forget me. I look back and I can see his mercy and love in operation even in my rebellion. There were times when I would look at creation and would want to praise God and I did. I praised Him but I didn’t want to follow Him. Once, I offered to pray for a work colleague who was going through a difficult time and I prayed in tongues. God’s mercy – God’s faithfulness, God never leaving me. So many times I would hear the whisper of God – come on, come back but I would harden my heart. However, I knew my life was lacking, Again never satisfied, I was always looking for something else. Together Chas and I knew we needed to find God again, we knew there was an empty space in our lives and we knew it was God that we needed but we didn’t quite know how to find Him. Our reconnection started at Tewkesbury Abbey. A strange place to start one thinks, but for us, it was the right place. God knows us ALL so well.

I am an emotional person and sometimes I cannot rely on my emotions, I need to know truth and reality (always my cry) so all the momentous times I have had with God have not been at some great rally or amazing service but in the quiet places where it has only been God and me. I was saved in my garden, no preacher, no altar call – I was filled by the Holy Spirit in my own home and I reconnected with God in the quiet of the Abbey, with no inspiring sermon I can’t tell you when I said O God, I’m sorry, take me back, restore me. I think it was my cry for longer than I realise. I CAN tell you that not for one minute did I think God would reject me. Like the father of the prodigal son, God was just waiting for me to return. I returned with nothing, other than my shame and sorrow, and was given a new chance, a new life

Two years at Tewkesbury Abbey, THE SLOW DANCE and then God led us to One Church, Home. I am HOME, back with my Father, back with the family, where I belong. Someone prophesied over us about a couple of years ago, someone who knew NOTHING at all about our story and said a page had turned in our lives and we now had a Blank page that God was going to write on. A BLANK SHEET – not smeared, not rubbed out – A BLANK WHITE SHEET – the grace of God.

My story is one of LOVE, not mine, but Gods

My story is one of MERCY, not mine, but Gods

My story is one of FAITHFULNESS, not mine but Gods


As a young child I grew up in an unstable home environment
following my parents’ divorce. When I was 5 I was sexually abused by
one of my mum’s boyfriends. At the age of 12 I developed an aggressive
form of epilepsy which affected my education. It was during this low
period of my life that I felt suicidal, and became aware of a voice in
my heart telling me, “I have something planned for you.” As a teenager
I began to attend church and gradually realised that Jesus was real,
relevant and full of love, and that only He could repair my life. Since
inviting Jesus into my heart in 1995, I have married my wonderful
husband, Glen, and have 2 beautiful daughters. I am also learning the
joy of being part of a loving, supportive family. God has also healed
me of my epilepsy. A friend in church prayed for me in June 2010 and
since then I have had no fits.



Being a single parent is not a lifestyle I chose for myself or my child. Being a Christian seemed to make the turmoil of separation and divorce even more heart breaking because I knew how God honours family life and how He is grieved by any breakdown of relationships.


But through this experience I have learned how loving and forgiving God really is and how He understands my weaknesses. Not only does God accept me in my failings but He also restores my life by helping me to forgive myself and others. God also gave me a new sense of hope in the future. I am now happy in the knowledge that God will never leave me or give up on me no matter what happens.


MelI’m Mel and was 44 when I asked Jesus to come into my life. I had come through a divorce due to my adultery and married for a second time, but we were soon heading for a second divorce.

My wife had earlier asked me if I believed in God. I think I did but I had never given any thought to God but I said yes just to keep her quiet. We started to go to church but with our problems we stopped going.

A friend suggested we could try Robinswood. The only time I ever went to church was for hatch, match and dispatch, but this place was vibrant. It was alive. Pastor Garner was the preacher and describing just my character. I had a filthy mouth, had been a thief and an adulterer – but he also said that when Jesus died upon the cross, he did it to take away all the sin I had ever done – and if I believed, Jesus would wash me whiter than snow.

I did believe and I’ve never been the same since!



I attended Sunday School and was confirmed at 13 but didn’t understand what it was all about. At 16 I started living the way I wanted including drinking and smoking. I married and had two children before getting divorced. I then married a lady who attended Church and I started going with her. I realised there was a better way to live and committed my life to God. My life started to change for the better, I got a good job and we were able to buy a house. Even when things got tough God provided for us. My wife became ill and eventually died but even through this God provided for me and my faith grew stronger. I am blessed to have good Christian friends to share my life with and I am thankful that God is a God of second chances.


SharonI was 9 years of age when I first realised that I needed God in my life. I had been a mischievous child but not an extremely naughty one. I had been taught values and respect. I repented and asked Jesus to come into my heart.

I left the Christian life at 17. I got married and had 2 children, after my divorce I married again and had another 2 children. I found God again at 30.

One day something went very wrong in my life and I cried out to God “Why me?” He answered me straight away with the words “Why not you, Sharon?”. God made it personal by saying my name. I believed that God was with me and that he would bring me through this. It was a difficult time and God has been a great healer, he is also my strength, my guide and my Saviour.

He loves me with a love that I could never repay, but His grace has saved me and one day I will see Him face to face.


JoyI was brought up in a very loving, caring but strict Christian home. I asked God into my life at the age of 8 and followed him faithfully until I hit 30. Mid life crisis came early I think, I thought I’d missed out on so much in my teens I wanted to make up for it, drinking and clubbing etc. Well two broken marriages later you can see where that got me! The only good things that came out of that time away from God are my 3 wonderful kids.

I realised I couldn’t do ‘life’ on my own; God couldn’t wave a magic wand and make everything better; but together we could begin to put my life back together. My life has dramatically turned around in the last 2 years. I am now healthy and happy in the knowledge that God is at ‘My’ centre and I am looking forward to all the challenges that lie ahead, whatever they might be.


RobAfter being married for 17 years my marriage broke down. What was once a place of security had become a battlefield. I was brought up in a Christian home and I became a Christian when I was 11 years old. Surely my life shouldn’t have gone so badly wrong?

But – life is not about being 100% perfect – it’s about learning and growing from our experiences. I’ve realised that most people miss God’s ideal A1 plan because we’re only human and never consistently get it right.

I’m just one of many – imperfect but accepted and forgiven by an amazing Jesus!

Life is the warm up act for something much greater. With the help of some amazingly loyal and supportive friends I’m still standing – committed to moving forward with some new wisdom on life, ready for plan A100 and a life of purpose. God is truly an awesome God. Come On!


TinaI went to church as a child but didn’t experience the reality of God until I was 16. My parents had divorced and I was struggling to come to terms with this. I came to a youth event with some friends and felt God’s love in a way that was so real. I realised that God loved me enough to let his son, Jesus, die for me. I decided then that I wanted a relationship with the God who loved me unconditionally. I understood that going to church wasn’t enough and that I needed God’s power in my life to direct me.

Over the last 20 years God has been faithful even though I have let him down, he has always forgiven me and guided me in what to do in all aspects of life – marriage, house buying, job hunting. I know God will never let me down.


GaryMy parents divorced when I was a young teenager, leading me to a pretty wayward lifestyle. I began using drugs and found that it made me feel good, not realising that all I was doing was blocking my emotions. Then came alcohol and thirty years of addiction, misery and hell. The last fifteen years of that period has been a quest for peace and freedom; eight residential rehabs, counselling, AA, NA, you name it. Addiction remained in me like a demon; relapse after relapse.

My upbringing was fully secular but during these last fifteen years I have yearned for faith in my life. Less than one year ago I decided to fully give my life to Jesus and I’ve never looked back from that day. I know without doubt that I can trust our Lord. I opened the floodgates of my heart to Jesus and he blessed me with a freedom I’ve never known. THANK YOU LORD.