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BeckyI was brought up with the title of ‘Pastor`s kid’; my father was a Pentecostal minister and until I turned fourteen I was everything that the daughter of a minister should be. At that point in my life a car accident caused a stroke in my dad and my world was turned upside down. I abandoned God and sought ‘love’ in the arms of any man that would have me.

This continued until the age of 18 when I finally realised that the only place to find the love I’d been so desperately craving was in the arms of the Author of love; my Lord Jesus. Since returning to that place I’ve never felt so secure, so loved; all of the depression and guilt that haunted me through my teenage years were lifted and now I live in the confidence and assurance that no matter what, He is still with me.

Dan – Extended Story

I was born into a Christian family and grew up in a loving home. As with all families, we had good and tough times, but God was always the centre of our home.

When I was around the age of 15/16 I spent more and more time with mates outside of church and eventually away from God pretty much altogether. Most of my time and energy for the next few years was focussed on doing my own thing which usually ended up revolving around women, drink and drugs.

During this time I met my wife (who had a pretty calming influence on me!) and ultimately in 1989 we got married and our woderful son and daughter soon followed. We started our marriage the hard way- young, no money, having children straight away, doing it without God and this quickly brought some tension in our relationship. Not long after we had our kids the company I was working for went bust and I was out of work. I found some work but at times the money was really poor which got me down but I stuck with it all the same, until when I was 24 I incurred a serious knee injury which prevented me from continuing my job. I managed to side step and went into the sales and then management side of the flooring industry which was really good until in 1999, I was made redundant as I fell out of favour with the owner.

I managed to find another job okay, but again, starting on lower wages and having to work back up I became quite insecure and very angry and depressed. By this time we had accumulated pretty big debts which were seemingly out of control. During this time I had re-committed my life to God, but was practically and emotionally in a real mess. I couldn’t sleep, my weight plummeted and I felt nauseous continually.

My “cure” for this was to make myself sick, giving me a chance to try and sleep before the nausea came back. It was a short term solution that quickly spiralled out of control to the point of wanting to go to sleep and not wake up. I felt terrible that I was makingmy family go through all of this- that just compounded the problem with guilt. They were brilliant, but I just couldn’t change how I felt.

The Church I was in at the time were brilliant, praying and supporting us (a couple of close friends and my brother in particular). One  day we were studying Sowing, Tithing etc and I felt really challenged to respond but at that time we were well over £20000 in debt, our income was in the region of £250 per month less than our outgoings and I had to convince my non-Christian wife we should give more away!!! I prayed (for my life!!) and to my amazement, she said “what have we got to lose?”. Within the same month of beginning to obey God in our giving, every company we were paying froze the interest and said that every pound we pay will come off the amounts we owed- something we’d pleaded with them all, with no success for months.

You have to really work at things- Marriage, family, finance and your relationship with God if you want to succeed, not just expect thing to fall on your lap. Dueteronomy 8 tells us that God gives us the ability to produce wealth, but is preceded by us using our hands and putting in effort.

Since then, my wife has given her heart to God, we have faithfully Tithed everything we have and sowed seed both in time and practicality and God has blessed us with job security, peace, provision, good health and a great Church family. We’ve still had to pay our debts, but God has provided the means for us to do that (we’ll be paid off by december this year), we still have problems and challenges and I’m far from perfect, but in the midst of all of these things, we have Real deep peace which is hard to explain, but is more powerful than you can imagine, and a real Hope for the future forus as a family and individually.

“For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11



I was brought up in a Christian home, which meant I was taught from the start what is right and wrong, and I was set strong moral ground to grow on by my parents. You’d think with this upbringing I’d have an established connection with God and I’d lead a life full of confidence and happiness? Not at all.


As a child I struggled with a low self-esteem and a learning difficultly, which grew into a pessimistic outlook on life that I carried into my teenage years. My relationship with God was always there, but I never called upon it.


I constantly prepared myself for the worst and believed that I could offer nothing good to the world, I worried about what people thought of me and at 15 I was facing depression.


Through several personal experiences, God has broken and remade me into something totally new, now at 18, I have a gift of compassion for people. Do I still struggle with my negative mind set? Of course! But is it only through God that I can face each day with a smile? Totally.


What do you call someone whose life was bound by depression, anxiety and an eating disorder by 14 years of age; a person with an irrational fear of death,  whose first marriage resulted in domestic violence and then went on to suffer with OCD living life in fear of everything and everyone?

A mess! 

15 years ago a colleague took me to church and I was overwhelmed by a feeling of peace and love – the presence of Jesus.  That night I said a prayer to invite Jesus in to my life and was adopted into the family of God.

Life still has its ups and downs but each and every day Jesus is doing life right beside me.  I am now remarried with a great family and I’m free to be the person God intended me to be, living a life of excitement, fulfilment and happiness!


DanI have been raised in a Christian home, I have fantastic parents that I am truly grateful for. They educated me about God not by telling me, but by showing me in everything that they did.

But life is not always a smooth ride. At the age of 11, a very low point in my life, I tried committing suicide. For the next 7 years of my life, I battled with depression and self harm and felt like I could tell nobody about it, struggling with not only my own confidence but my confidence and faith in God. It came to one moment… I made a decision to get to know God personally and to go through life in relationship with Him. I suddenly knew I was loved, cherished and accepted by God, despite how damaged and bad I felt on the inside. Now, aged 22, I can see how the grace of God has been on my life and changed my life for the better.